I love you as you are, as you seek to find your own special way to relate to the world, or the way you feel that is right for you. It is important that you are the person you want to be and not someone that I or others think you should be.
Keeping true to the name of this website, let’s go ahead and focus our awareness on unconditional love. The world needs this more than ever. So much is at stake (perhaps our very existence) which is all the more reason why we focus on living our lives expressing this unifying state of consciousness for our personal sake and the sake of humanity. Having unconditional love means to be fully present, in every single moment…to be fully aware…to be fully open, honest, transparent. It means to be fully willing, to express the love that is in your heart full out. To be fully loving means to be fully naked, without hidden agenda or hidden motive, without hidden anything.
Unconditional love is extremely important, especially now more than ever. Not only is living a life at the level of an unconditional love a great thing to do for your personal well being but it also has a much deeper and important role in global consciousness. So how do we get ourselves to get into the feeling that we can just give love without rhyme or reason, just simply because?
How to Love Without Conditions
The first step to having unconditional love is that you must fully love yourself. This simply can’t be done as you believe that you were born into ‘sin’ or that your heart is a wicked wicked thing as some ancient religious texts may have you falsely believe (for actual science on the heart, this is a fantastic read). If you believe that humans are by nature non-trustworthy and evil (scientifically proven to be false as this article shows, you will create a society that supports that view, then enact laws, approve rules, adopt regulations, and impose restraints that are justified by it. If you believe that humans are by nature trustworthy and good, you will create an entirely different kind of society, in which laws, rules, regulations, and restraints are rarely required. The first society will be freedom limiting, the second, freedom giving.
To be fully free is to live in blissful happiness because full freedom creates the space for every happy experience. Freedom is the basic nature of The Source. It is also the basic nature of being a human being. The degree to which you are not fully free is the degree to which you are not fully joyful and that is the degree to which you are not fully loving. To be totally loving, without any conditions, means to be fully free.
The biggest punishment that we can do to ourselves is the withholding of our unconditional love. People have shown their children that if they behave in a certain way, their parents will withhold their love. It is by the granting and the withholding of that love that they have sought to regulate and modify, to control and to create, their children’s behaviors.
Unconditional love never withdraws itself…this is what loving fully means. One does not have to practice what one is, one simply is it. You must be the love that knows no condition or limitation of any kind. You should be totally loving, and to be totally loving means to be willing to give every mature sentient being total freedom to be, do, and have that which they wish. Love lets go. It’s honestly the least stressful way to live. Just think about how much energy and effort it takes to hold a grudge. Imagine trying to hold hundreds of grudges, who wants to remember so many negative things?!
What we call need and what we often confuse with love does the opposite. Need holds on. This is the way you can tell the difference between love and need. Love lets go, need holds on. To love unconditionally, let go of expectation, let go of requirements and rules and regulations that you would impose on your loved ones. For they are not loved if they are restricted. You do not love yourself totally when you restrict yourself, when you grant yourself less than total freedom, in any matter. Yet remember that choices are not restrictions. Don’t call the choices you have made restrictions. Lovingly provide for your children and all your loved ones all the information that you feel you may have to help them make good choices…”good” being defined here as those choices most likely to produce a particular desired result, as well as what you know to be their largest desired result: a happy life.
Thank you to I Love U Love for the inspiration for this article